My Entrance into the World of Stay at Home Moms

Since I am going to be doing an awful lot of writing about a lot of issues concerning stay at home moms and working moms too, I thought you might want to know a little bit about me and how I came to be a stay at home mom.

First of all, I am a wife of ten years and a mother to two adorable children, a 1 1/2 year old little girl, Brooke, and a five year old boy, David. Up until about 2 1/2 years ago, I had worked as a bookkeeper at an accounting office for eight years. Yes, I can’t help it, I love numbers and my adding machine.

Well, from the time my son was about one year old, I debated back and forth about whether I wanted to quit work and stay home, or whether I wanted to continue to get a weekly paycheck. Obviously the paycheck didn’t win this one. However, believe it or not, it was not an easy choice for me.

David had just turned three years old when I finally quit working. I was so afraid that because I had worked since I was 16 years old that I would not have an identity anymore if I quit, and that I would be absolutely bored stiff at home.

Boy was I wrong on both accounts.

Although, I struggled with making a decision for two years, I finally came to the conclusion that there was no way for me to make a decision based on the pros and cons method. I had never stayed at home with children before, so I had nothing to base my fears or apprehensions upon.

I realized that there was only one way for me to decide if being at home was right for me, and that was to just do it. I knew that if I didn’t try, I would wonder for the rest of my life if I would have loved staying home with my kids and if that would that have been better for the whole family.

I finally came to the realization that there would always be another job out there somewhere if I decided I was made to be a working mom, but there would be no way to turn back the clock for the time missed with my kids if I didn’t try staying at home. That realization became the turning point that joined me in the ranks of the stay at home moms.

About seven months after quitting work, I gave birth to my beautiful baby girl. So, basically, the part about being bored still has not occurred. And by concentrating my attentions on being a mother and wife, I found an identity that was much more defining than any other job I could ever hope to find.

I now know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I made the right decision by quitting my job. It is one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. Finally, I can really focus my energy on the people that matter the most—My Family!!

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Posted on March 3rd, 2009 in Miscellaneous | One Comment

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  • Audra Laney says:

    An investment in the family is something we, as women, will never regret. I am a SAHM of only 2 weeks; prior to that, I was working 1 12hr shift/week. This is what I’ve discovered:

    1. I take more pride in my home, its organization, and cleanliness
    2. I WANT to cook dinner at home
    3. I’m willing to make sacrifices to stay here: cutting coupons, dining out on a budget, axing the satellite TV
    4. My husband is happier–home cooked foods, clean house, happy wife and child!

    Audra Laney’s last blog post..Blue Eyed Boy

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